About Ron Lafleur

I am a counsellor in private practice specializing in couples therapy.

How To Communicate Better With Your Partner

  Conflict Arises What?  You don’t agree with me??? Sometimes knowing how to communicate better with our partners is not something that comes naturally to us. We all have those moments when we don’t agree with our partner, or they don’t agree with us.   But how we handle our differences can make ALL the difference […]

Communication Tips #1 Use “I” Instead Of “You”

If You Want To Have An Argument Or greatly increase your chances of having one, start your sentence off with the word “YOU”! OR you can use these communication tips!  But if you insist on still using “You”… This can be a problem…  Why you might ask? Well for starters, feel what it is like when […]

Why COOPERATION Could Be MORE Important Than LOVE!

Cooperation: More Important Than Love? Could cooperation, be the highest attainment that a couple could strive for in a romantic relationship? In fact, love is often considered almost a synonym for relationship! And I too thought that to attain the state of love was the highest attainment in a couple. I had never considered the ultimate […]

Why Preferences Are ALWAYS Better Than Demands!

Preferences Are More Fluid Yes, here at long last is the promised article on preferences! Here goes! The benefits of going through life with preferences instead of demands is that they are more fluid. What do I mean by that? Well, when you have a demand, there is usually only ONE specific set of circumstances […]

Why Making Comparisons Can Make You Miserable!

Comparisons: A Formula For Feeling Miserable? If you want to feel miserable, then I would recommend that you “compare” yourself to somebody or something! Why would I want to do that? You probably do already, and would claim that you don’t! BUT …. if we pay close attention to our thoughts, we probably do IT all […]

Anger Management: THE Word That Sets You Off!

Anger Management The Fuse! Is 1/4 of a second long!   That may be the difference between maintaining your cool and totally losing it! Research reported on by Daniel Goleman in his landmark book Emotional Intelligence found that it could take as little as 1/4 of a second for the amygdala to trigger a full blown […]

Communication 101: Part 2

What Can Computers Teach Humans About Communication? Communication in a perfect world might look something like this: Humans might take it upon themselves, to borrow from the information transmission system employed by computers. Imagine that the example below mimics the process that two computers would go through to exchange ONE piece of information! Person A feels […]

Communication 101: When A Tree Isn’t What It Seems!?

Is Poor Communication A Problem? On some level, a long term relationship can be equated to one very long conversation between two people. Communication is of the essence. One goes into relationship hoping for the best, but all too often the “conversation” that we experience is fraught with static and disconnection. What happens to our […]