There’s this feeling like we’ve been here before, and yet things are different, and it feels like they could get worse before they get better. I’ve probably gone over the subject of anxiety in a few previous posts but I think it merits a revisit at this point in time. The essential thing about anxiety […]
What Lies Ahead?
It’s been a while since I’ve come to this place to write and jot down some ideas. I had thought that I had written everything that I had to share. As it turns out, there’s more, so much more. The Le Guin quote seems to summarize the feeling of myself and possibly a lot of […]
How To Self-Soothe Together
This little writeup is from John Gottman’s Marriage Minute email list. A great and concise piece on how to soothe your partner and yourself in the middle of an argument. Being able to stop and take the time to soothe oneself and your partner during a heated argument can make all the difference between having […]
Winter Is Coming: Depression Time – SAD Time
Is It SAD? We are quickly working our way through fall headed toward winter, a time of year when a lot of people’s moods may head south despite their bodies wanting to go someplace south and warm. Not this year it seems. With COVID upon us, this thing called a “winter getaway” will have to […]
Listen Until You Feel Understood (LUFU)
Listening and Feeling Validated Quick relationship tip, but one that is so powerful for defusing rapidly escalating arguments and conflicts. Who would have thought that listening could make such a big difference? One of the things that can cause partners to spiral off is when they do not feel properly understood and thus validated in […]
Sulking in Relationships
Sulking: Failing to Explain Ourselves So often in romantic relationships, we can get into trouble with one another by expecting our romantic partner to read our minds. In the early part of getting to know each other this tactic may work much to our surprise as we are discovering all of the things we have […]
Welcome To 2017
Happy New Year 2017! Congratulations! 2017 You made it! No small feat. A lot of people, many of them rich and famous are not so fortunate. Now that we’ve made it, now what are we going to do? It might be helpful to take a moment and take stock of certain things, things that we can […]
Vulnerability Makes The Difference!
Vulnerability Is Key Quite often in our lives, we may find ourselves stuck, whether it be in our romantic life, at work / business, or in life in general, and yet not realize that a solution is at hand: Vulnerability. But it may not be what we are looking for, so we discard it. We […]
Blame: Relationship Killer!
Blame: Love Goes Astray Arguably one of the most destructive forces in a relationship is BLAME. The problem with blame is that it projects negative energy and intent at our loved one. Blame rarely seeks to understand or empathize or reach out in compassion. It is most likened to this familiar phrase: The best defense […]
Best Way To Avoid Having An Argument
Use “I” Instead Of “You” But if you insist on still using “You”… This can be a problem… Why you might ask? Well for starters, feel what it is like when someone starts off a sentence with the word “You”. You forgot to take out the garbage. Do we not feel somewhat mildly under […]