Listening and Feeling Validated Quick relationship tip, but one that is so powerful for defusing rapidly escalating arguments and conflicts. Who would have thought that listening could make such a big difference? One of the things that can cause partners to spiral off is when they do not feel properly understood and thus validated in […]
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Sulking in Relationships
Sulking: Failing to Explain Ourselves So often in romantic relationships, we can get into trouble with one another by expecting our romantic partner to read our minds. In the early part of getting to know each other this tactic may work much to our surprise as we are discovering all of the things we have […]
Best Way To Avoid Having An Argument
Use “I” Instead Of “You” But if you insist on still using “You”… This can be a problem… Why you might ask? Well for starters, feel what it is like when someone starts off a sentence with the word “You”. You forgot to take out the garbage. Do we not feel somewhat mildly under […]
Loving What Is: The Work by Byron Katie
Loving What Is: The Work Every once in awhile, a book comes out that is a real watershed moment in terms of helping us to see reality from a different perspective. Byron Katie’s Loving What Is, is just such a book. After a difficult life filled with many problems, among them alcohol abuse, she woke […]
Communication Tip # 3: Being Interested!
Communication Enhancer: Be Authentically Interested One sure way to improve communication, and to ensure the right amount of energy, is to actually be authentically interested in what the other person has to say. This may sound logical, or even unnecessary to say, but in a world where we routinely greet each other by asking? Hello, […]
The Power Of Story
How Story Shapes Our Lives: Story, has this powerful and often unseen impact on our lives, every single day. The impact is so significant, and so ever-present, that we don’t even realize that it is with us, there every day to guide our life. Story has such a vast impact upon our lives, in the […]
Communication Tip #2: Taking Turns Talking AND Listening!
Taking Turns: Talking AND Listening Communication tips may come in many forms and varieties, but one thing is sure: If one person isn’t really listening while the other person is talking, there are bound to be all kinds of miscommunication problems! What does it mean to really listen? Really listening would mean: Paying attention Looking […]
How To Communicate Better With Your Partner
Conflict Arises What? You don’t agree with me??? Sometimes knowing how to communicate better with our partners is not something that comes naturally to us. We all have those moments when we don’t agree with our partner, or they don’t agree with us. But how we handle our differences can make ALL the difference […]
Communication Tips #1 Use “I” Instead Of “You”
If You Want To Have An Argument Or greatly increase your chances of having one, start your sentence off with the word “YOU”! OR you can use these communication tips! But if you insist on still using “You”… This can be a problem… Why you might ask? Well for starters, feel what it is like when […]
Why COOPERATION Could Be MORE Important Than LOVE!
Cooperation: More Important Than Love? Could cooperation, be the highest attainment that a couple could strive for in a romantic relationship? In fact, love is often considered almost a synonym for relationship! And I too thought that to attain the state of love was the highest attainment in a couple. I had never considered the ultimate […]