How To Deal With Worry

Worry: The Silent Energy Zapper!

If you’ve ever been bothered by ongoing worry, then you know how much of an energy zapper it can be!

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Have you ever seen an energetic looking worrier?

Me neither! People that worry seem to have this harried look about them. As if they were deeply preoccupied by something and unable to pull themselves out of it. There’s a reason why we feel so sapped when we are caught in the endless cycle of worry.

Under regular operating conditions, our brain may use around 30% of our glucose / energy

And that is under “normal” operation!  When we are worrying, we are thinking a LOT more thoughts and consuming a LOT more energy, and therefore we are likely to feel run down.

Below are some of the potential problems that can occur when we worry:

  • Fatigue
  • Stress
  • Tension
  • Irritability
  • Depression
  • Lack of peace of mind
  • Lack of enjoyment of life
  • Can also greatly affect your health

How To Deal With Worry?

Given the possible serious and devastating effects of worry on our health and enjoyment of life over time, it is very important to identify that we are “over-worrying” and then to take some action to resolve it.  The following two methods that I will present have helped clients to better deal with their worries and to achieve greater peace of mind.

Change “Worry” To “Concern”

One of the things that I will suggest clients do is to substitute the word “worry” for “concern”!

Now on the surface this may not seem like much. It may not seem like we are doing anything at all. It is just substituting one word for another right? Yes and no. We create our world and our internal environment by the words and thoughts and ideas that we choose for ourselves.

Here’s how it works:

1) Think of any topic or thing that you are worried about.

2) Say the following to yourself …. ” I am worried about my finances”
and see how this feels inside.

3) Now say to yourself……  “I am concerned about my finances”

What I have noticed, is that the great majority of people will say that the second phrase feels better to them. When asked why, they often don’t seem to know why. It just feels better and less stressful and worrisome to them.

When I did this experiment myself, I have to admit that it was difficult to pinpoint what was going on, but somehow it seemed liked the energy was coming from a different place inside.

It almost seemed that if I were “concerned” about something, it was as if I had made note of it, and would be in the process of coming back to it with a plan to act upon it. Whereas when I found myself being “worried” about something, it felt like I was spinning in my tracks and not getting anywhere with no plan to address whatever was causing me distress.

A Surprising Test Of The Method

When I explored what was going on with clients, I asked some of them the following very interesting question:

If you had a choice to work for one of the following two bosses, which one would you choose? Would you pick the one who was telling you everything that they were worried about, or would you pick the one that was telling you what they were concerned about?

Almost universally and very quickly, clients would tell me that they would much rather prefer working for a boss that would be telling them what he / she was concerned about!

Doesn’t it make us nervous just imagining working for someone who is telling us all the things that they are worried about? Can almost feel the nervous energy from the start and can’t help but wondering how stressful it might be working under these conditions.

Start Using Concern Today!

And you need never worry another day or moment for the rest of your life!

You will be surprised to hear yourself speaking about how you are “concerned” about this or that, and that you somehow find yourself feeling better. You can’t quite put your finger on it, but darn if it doesn’t feel better somehow.

And you will notice it even more when you look at other people who are saying the word “worry”, and you will possibly look at them and see how “worried” and distressed they look.

But for you…. you may not even be able to remember the last time you “worried”. And quite frankly you will probably not miss it one bit.

What have you got to lose ….. but your worries!

Become “concerned”  today!

Wait ….There’s More!

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The Antidote to Worry!

This part is short and sweet, but highly effective if we are mindful of how it works.

Are you ready for the antidote to worry?

You might not like it …..

It’s simple though, but it works ……   if you remember to use it

Okay, here it is …….

If there’s something you can do ….. do it!   If there’s nothing you can do …. let it go!

Simple ….. but sometimes so difficult to remember and implement!

Want a reminder …… think of that certain slogan by that certain running shoe company. Or let it go!

The Payoff

What do you get if you use these methods and they ACTUALLY work???


There is no greater reward that I can think of.

When is the last time you felt “peace of mind”.

Wouldn’t it be a nice thing to give to yourself and those around you?

If you find these techniques helpful, please pass them along and help to end
someone’s suffering.

Please note:  If you find that you are unable to control your worrying and anxiety, then you may find it helpful to consult a therapist or a medical professional. You need not suffer in silence. Help is available.

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About Ron Lafleur

I am a counsellor in private practice specializing in couples therapy.

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